Making The Right Choice has been edited by Pratichi Sadavrati.
To be beautiful means to be yourself. You do not need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.
A lot of people I talk to, feel that they have no joy in their life. They feel obligated to do so many things, that they do not have time even for themselves or the things they really want to do. And as a result, they feel drained, anxious, and resentful. With so many outside forces competing for their time, energy and financial resources, no wonder they feel that way.
So what should we do to maintain balance among this sea of obligations and commitments?
The answer is “live consciously”. By scrutinising each decision we make and by asking ourselves, “Is this really what I want to do? Is this right for me?” And then make sure those actions stay in alignment with the true intentions.
Saying “yes” when we mean “no”, often damages our confidence and lowers our self-esteem.
So why do we do it?
From a very young age, we are conditioned to act in a certain way in order to feel loved and accepted. This is the beginning of the loss of our personal power and authenticity. In order to create change, we need to recondition our beliefs by discovering what is really good for us. What is the right choice to make?
These are a few questions I believe one must ask oneself to become aware of any patterns and beliefs that would no longer work for them. Once you become aware of these beliefs, you can simply begin to consciously change them.
Ask yourself: “Why am I doing this? ”
Is it because…
- you would feel guilty if you did not.
- everyone else is doing it, so you think you should too.
- you want others to think you are a nice person.
- you want to feel accepted.
- it feels like you are not good enough to do what is really right for you.
- you have trouble saying “no” or being yourself around certain people.
If you have said “yes” to any of these questions, you are cheating yourself out of the things that bring you happiness and joy!
The next time you hear yourself saying, “I love gardening, but I don’t have time” or “I love to hike, but I am too busy”, remember you have the power to change the situation. You can choose to believe you are valuable; you do matter, and that your happiness is a priority.
Your life is the culmination of each decision you make every moment (whether you are aware of what you are choosing or not).
Begin to understand the intention behind your every action and make a conscious decision, to do only what is right for you. To do something right. Gather the courage each moment and say “no” to anything or anyone that does not allow you to be yourself, or to live in alignment with your dreams. Make the right choice.
What would you choose? Would you choose to stay in power by acting with the knowledge that you are responsible for every action in your life? Or would you continue to give your power away in order to feel valued and accepted in the eyes of another?
The choice is yours.
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