GRASS IS ALWAYS GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE. IS IT, REALLY?
by Isha Gandhi
Whatever may be the reason but it is a common human tendency to not value what one has at hand in the present and to keep yearning for more and more. Which in-turn makes one feel the need of having more or experiencing the materialistic and worldly pleasures, often characterised by looking into the backyard of other people.
Hence the phrase, “grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.”
Let us understand this conventional and highly intricate process of having this belief with a simple example. Don’t we fret over the things we cannot win over? A test, a competition, a challenge. Why do we bother fretting over these things? Yes, someway or another, this does teach us to keep striving to be better and to grab every opportunity that comes our way. However, this is very often misinterpreted and applied to areas which do not invite them. We start applying this logic when we compare ourselves with others. Should it always be the driving force for our success? Or should it be introspective? Should we fret over it or should we improve? Grass may seem greener on the other side, only when we compare ourselves with others and not with oneself.
If we look closely, we are usually not taught to value the things we have in this very moment. They teach us to look ahead and keep planning, which makes us blind to the now! Do we pause and feel good for what we have at hand? Do we appreciate things? Valuing and appreciating is an art in its own sense. Oh yes, it definitely is. To value a thing, an act, a person, etcetera is a way of appreciating the very existence of them. Value what you have in your collection. Value your capability of achieving and the cry of your conscience. Cherish your true-self, then the rest follows. And see, you will always be busy in enriching your own garden, improving and enhancing.
All I am saying is that it may never occur to you that your grass is much greener than the rest and has the possibility to be more nourished until you look into the reason as to why do you find the other grass more greener! And when you finally do understand, it may never seem to you that the grass on the other side was never greener than yours!